Of the characteristics, I will discuss below, there are many the average Western woman won’t even notice anymore, which hardly help you to charm them.
For Brazilian women, nothing could be further from the truth; they will praise you for them.
Perhaps a few of these characteristics will need some polishing up, but take it from me: according to the Brazilian woman, you possess the first ten.
1. You have Western looks
2. You behave like a gentleman
3. You’re not afraid of commitment
4. You don’t behave jealously
5. You are relatively well-to-do
6. You are generous
7. You are dependable
8. You have integrity
9. You’re not aggressive
10. You easily discuss all sorts of topics
11. You speak the language
12. You know how to dress
13. You are mindful of your hygiene
14. You have a romantic nature
15. You aren’t afraid of intimacy
16. You’re athletic
17. You are energetic
18. You come across as self-assured
19. You’re funny
20. You can dance a little
21. You are musical
1. You have Western looks
Apparently, good things come from far away.
If, as a Western man, you have the characteristics below, you already have a clear advantage. These characteristics are scarce in Brazil, and are therefore considered to be very attractive.
- Blue eyes: they love them. So leave your expensive sunglasses at home if you’ve got blue eyes, particularly because eye contact is an important means of attracting the attention of a Brazilian woman.
- Fair skin: also a very attractive feature in Brazil. So don’t waste your time sunbathing to get a tan. This will only decrease your attractiveness.
- Particularly blond, but also red and light-brown hair. Wear your hair medium-long to long. The more blond she sees, the happier this will make her.
Are you blessed with all three characteristics?
Then you can close this page and pack your suitcase. Some Brazilian women even dream of having a baby with blond hair and blue eyes.
Don’t have the above physical characteristics? Don’t worry, there are plenty of other characteristics you can use to positively distinguish yourself.
Tips
- Make sure you’re in shape when going to Brazil. A beautiful Brazilian woman expects her partner to look good as well.
- Because kissing forms an important part of courtship, it’s important to have healthy teeth in Brazil.
- In São Paulo, beards and mustaches are incredibly popular. Brazilian women are a huge fan of these features.
- Are you planning on changing your haircut or shaving your beard? It may sound strange, but that’s not a decision you make on your own. Discuss this with your girlfriend and she will decide whether it’s okay to do so.
2. You behave like a gentleman
Up to a certain degree, Western women enjoy meeting a gentleman, but after a while, this could also make them feel uncomfortable.
Why?
This probably has to do with the emancipation of Western women.
In Brazil, gentlemen are in high demand. In fact, women complain that Brazilian men don’t know how to behave like true gentlemen.
So, be a gentleman. Every Brazilian woman will feel like a princess in your presence and you’ll be sitting pretty.
Tips
- Hold the door open for her.
- Help her get out of a cab.
- Help her when putting on or taking off her coat.
- Make a reservation when going to a restaurant.
- Dress smartly when taking her to a restaurant.
- In a restaurant, slide back her chair to let her sit down.
- In a restaurant, order last. Ladies first, always.
- Discretely pay the bill when taking her to a restaurant, bar or other establishment.
- Don’t swear.
- Don’t gossip.
- Stay positive.
- Don’t make sexist, racist, or homophobic remarks.
- Say ‘thank you’ when required.
- Let her finish when she’s speaking.
3. You’re not afraid of commitment
Brazilian women are on the lookout for ‘players’, men who have no serious intentions but are just pretending. Make sure you don’t come across as one of those men, because that will mean it’s absolutely over for some Brazilian women, no matter how hard you try.
But what about the mate choice copying theory? This theory posits that women are influenced by the following factors when choosing a partner, or mate:
- The number of partners a man has had.
- The success of these relationships.
- The looks of these partners.
This theory doesn’t seem to apply to Brazil. In the eyes of the women, these men have simply crossed a line.
Tips
- Deny having had many Brazilian girlfriends.
- Make your social media friends private.
- Place as few pictures with other women on Facebook or Instagram as possible, as this will all be used against you.
- Deny having been to Brazil before. Play it down.
- Come across as a nice, quiet guy, rather than a player.
- Give the girl you’re with your full and undivided attention and don’t look at other girls over her shoulder.
- Don’t kiss multiple girls in one night.
- If you promise to send a message, do so as soon as possible.
- If you are really attracted to a girl, don’t try to get her into bed on the first night.
- Don’t try to hit on friends of an ex.
4. You don’t behave jealously
Don’t be possessive during your dates and at the beginning of your relationship. Give her the space she needs. Particularly modern women will really appreciate this.
5. You are relatively well-to-do
Generally speaking, women are looking for a man with a stable career who can offer financial security. In a poor country such as Brazil, this might be even more important than in the richer West.
A man’s financial position is also important for a Brazilian woman with a nice career of her own.
Brazilian men therefore often upload a picture of themselves with a car to online dating sites such as Tinder, Bumble, or Inner Circle, because they know women take note of that kind of thing.
It won’t be surprising that you will be a well-to-do man in the eyes of many Brazilian women. Brazilian men generally have less to spend. This makes it easy to impress Brazilian women.
But in Brazil too, money can’t buy you love.
Yet, many Brazilian women will notice that a man has money. For some, a relationship with a Western man is a ticket to the West, and therefore a chance of a better, carefree life. Something that is much more difficult to realize in Brazil.
Tips
- Be careful of Brazilian women who are just after your money.
- Do you have doubts? Remain vague about how much you earn and own.
6. You are generous
Brazilian women love being pampered. Sometimes they even demand as much. There are no less than seven days in Brazil on which your girlfriend expects you to buy her a gift and spoil her.
In addition to buying gifts, they also like to be taken out regularly. Brazilian men often stop doing this once they’ve reeled the women in. They usually only go all out when they’re head over heels in love.
Tip
Put important dates such as International Women’s Day on your calendar, so you never show up empty-handed. This could save you a lot of drama.
7. You are dependable
Because Brazilian women are confronted with cheating men from a young age, they tend to assume Western men are the same.
So, it takes a while for a Brazilian woman to trust you and realize that you’re different. You can help her realize this by never making her feel like you’re interested in other women.
It was four o’clock in the morning, and my new girlfriend and I wanted to grab a bite somewhere. In Ipanema, there was only one restaurant open at this hour, so the choice was easily made. It was a small restaurant with ten tables. When we arrived and I went looking for a table, I was shocked to see two of my old flings in the restaurant! ‘What are the odds?’, I thought. Panicking, I said I’d rather go somewhere else. My girlfriend didn’t get it and suspected that something weird was going on. Before one of these girls could seek me out, I confessed that there were two of my exes in the restaurant, exes I didn’t want her to meet.
I explained that one of them had quite a temper and I didn’t feel like drama. To no avail. My girlfriend lost it and demanded to know who they were. I refused to point them out. When, eventually, my girlfriend was ordering at the counter, both my exes left the restaurant, fortunately without having seen me. As you can guess, I had to listen to her for months telling me that I was a player and couldn’t be trusted. In short, sometimes it’s better not to tell the truth. But at that time, I didn’t know how to get out of it.
Are Brazilian women faithful themselves? According to many, they’re just as unfaithful as Brazilian men.
I have dated a number of women who turned out to be married and have kids, such as Gina, whom I met at the Copacabana on New Year’s Eve. She was a real party animal and often drank twice as much as I did.
After a few wild nights during which she showed me all the corners of the bedroom, she told me she had to return to Italy, where she’d emigrated to ten years before. When I suggested looking her up after my holiday, because I lived in Europe, she laughed. That would be tricky. She gave me her Facebook account, where I could see the next day that she lived in a beautiful villa in Tuscany together with her husband and three children. She’d never mentioned having a family.
Tips
- Don’t look at other women when she’s around.
- Deny having much experience with other Brazilian women.
- Come across as a nice, quiet guy rather than a player.
8. You have integrity
The modern Brazilian woman likes to know where she stands and appreciates the predictability of the Western man.
When a Western man promises to do something, he usually makes good on that promise. This gives the modern Brazilian woman a sense of calm she won’t find with most Brazilian men.
The traditional woman, on the other hand, likes a little more drama and can be a little bored by the predictability of Western men.
Tip
Especially at the beginning of a relationship, make sure you live up to your promises. If you fail to do so, women will be put off, because of their traumatic experiences with Brazilian men.
9. You’re not aggressive
Brazilian men can be aggressive.
Brazil ranks seventh on the list of countries with the most violence against women. This violence mainly takes place at home. Rather a sad statistic, if you ask me.
Western men are often much more gentle. Women in Brazil know this. They will, therefore, feel safer and more free around you.
But always be careful in the beginning.
If a Brazilian woman has previously been in a relationship with an aggressive man, she might be startled by a playful punch on her shoulder.
Tips
- Stay calm during discussions.
- Respect your partner’s opinion.
- Don’t slap her butt and don’t use any other mild forms of physical violence.
10. You easily discuss all sorts of topics
The modern Brazilian woman is looking for a man who:
- Has an open mind.
- Has extensive knowledge.
- Is interested in various subjects.
- Lives his life in a conscious manner.
We Western men do much better with regard to these aspects
Tips
- Show an interest in her life.
- Share experiences.
- Give her compliments.
Scoring bonus points
Above, I’ve shown you that you are already off to a great start: 10 characteristics the average Brazilian man can’t hold a candle to. What a luxury, 10 potential characteristics women greatly value in Brazil.
However, now, we will focus on another 11 characteristics Brazilian women also greatly appreciate. If you can master these, you will certainly be able to take part in the Brazilian major league of dating. This won’t hold any secrets for you, and you will be able to accurately respond to every situation.
This will give you the ability to charm every Brazilian beauty.
Again, I will give you specific tips. Consider it homework; you don’t even have to do all of it. A few bonus points will quickly tip the scales in your favor, making you irresistible to every Brazilian woman.
11. You speak the language
Most Brazilian women don’t speak English. In the big cities, such as Rio de Janeiro and São Paulo, you meet women who speak a few words of English on a more regular basis, or in the best case scenario women who speak English, with whom you can converse. Outside of the cities, however, this chance is a lot smaller.
When I first went on holiday to Brazil as a single man, I had taken two courses in Brazilian Portuguese in Amsterdam. I had always spoken English with my Brazilian ex-girlfriend. In short, I was still a beginner. I remember arriving in Rio de Janeiro and picking up a girl with my broken Portuguese within fifteen minutes. I saw Vilane sitting at a table on the boulevard of Ipanema by herself. With her high heels, shorts, and hair-dyed blonde she looked incredibly sexy.
Later, it turned out she was going through a divorce and was the mother of two children. When her husband found out via Facebook that I was sleeping with his wife and threatened to look me up, I felt pretty tense going outside for a few days. Every few minutes, I’d look over my shoulder to make sure I wasn’t being followed.
Not knowing what I was in for yet, I walked onto the bar’s terrace and looked into her eyes, before sitting down at a table near her. I was lucky that, pretty soon, a boy from the favela came by my table and started to talk to me. I took my chance and asked her what the boy wanted from me. That’s how we got to talking. Because I hadn’t mastered the language yet, I asked her if I could sit with her so I could hear her better. Sitting next to her and by means of my pocket dictionary, I managed to get the conversation going and managed to bring Vilane under my spell. Not much later, we were making out on the beach and I had picked up my first Brazilian woman in Brazil.
Therefore, make things easy for yourself and take a course in Brazilian Portuguese before traveling to Brazil.
This will give you a great advantage over a large group of Western competitors and you can speak to any Brazilian woman without worrying whether or not she speaks English.
Bonus: Brazilian women will think you are incredibly sympathetic for taking the time and energy to learn to speak their language.
But do note:
If your Portuguese is too good, this can unfortunately also be used against you. Brazilian women assume that if you speak the language well, you probably also have a lot of experience with other Brazilian women.
If you meet a suspicious Brazilian woman, you have to convince her of the contrary. First try to gain her trust, before showing her how well you actually speak the language.
Tips
- Brazilian women who are interested in Western men often speak a little bit of English. If you hear a Brazilian woman speak English, you know what to do. It’s best to tell her you learned the language in your home country by taking Portuguese classes.
- Do you use Tinder, Bumble, or Inner Circle, but haven’t mastered the language yet? Make use of a Virtual Dating Assistant, who will handle the communication with your matches in Brazilian Portuguese. I’ve heard good things about them.
12. You know how to dress
Brazilian women don’t like it when a man pays too much attention to his clothes.
Italians are often mentioned as an example of men who look just a little too smooth with their pink polo shirts and perfectly matching man purses.
Brazilian women don’t care whether you’re wearing expensive brands or have a new flashy outfit every week.
But don’t get me wrong, it’s certainly appreciated when a man knows how to dress. Just make sure it doesn’t seem too thought out.
If your Brazilian girlfriend doesn’t like your clothing style, she will soon start to make it her business. If you’re not particularly strong-willed, she will soon determine what clothes you wear. And buy.
You’d better hope she’s got good taste…
Tip
Make sure you don’t look like a typical gringo (foreigner). Don’t exaggerate. Don’t wear a Hawaiian shirt and a necklace and three wristbands at the same time. Keep it simple, manly, and neatly groomed.
13. You are mindful of your hygiene
I want to discuss personal hygiene with you.
Brazilian women are super clean and expect the same of you. Western men don’t do so well in that respect.
After all these years, it’s still difficult for me to get used to. I don’t know how you feel about it, but when things start to get a little steamy in a relationship, you sometimes jump into bed from one moment to the next, you’re taking off each other’s clothes while kissing passionately, and have only one goal: to get to the lovemaking as soon as possible. And then, without fail, the unpleasant surprise:
“Honey, let’s shower, brush our teeth and floss first, shall we?”
If there’s anything that kills the mood, it’s flossing. But, in the end, you have to agree. It’s much more hygienic and fresh to wash up before diving into bed. It does take you out of the moment, but fortunately, Brazilian women are master temptresses and you will soon be in the mood again.
Tips
- Shower in the morning.
- Shower before going to bed.
- Shower before going on your date.
- Also, brush and floss your teeth properly.
- Don’t try to mask an unpleasant body odor with deodorant and aftershave. Brazilian women like a fresh body and not a cloud of perfume.
- A Brazilian wax is not necessary, but trim your pubic and armpit hair.
14. You have a romantic nature
Brazilian women are super romantic and Brazilian men are aware of this. If a Brazilian man is trying to get a girl in bed, he will first have to convince her of his feelings for her.
He does so by talking to her lovingly:
“I’m so crazy about you.”
“You’re the perfect girl for me.”
“You’re so beautiful and amazing.”
Does this really work?
I know. These are one-liners the average woman wouldn’t fall for; she’d probably fall off her barstool laughing.
Why does this work for Brazilian women?
It works like this: it’s not about what you literally say, but that you say something they can later use as an excuse.
Deep inside, each woman takes into account that you don’t mean what you say, but to herself and those around her, it works as an excuse for sleeping with you.
In other words, this helps her to avoid looking like a slut.
That Brazilian men usually don’t live up to their promises, comes with the drama some women secretly love.
In a relationship, Brazilian men are a lot less romantic. For instance, they don’t organize enough romantic dates.
Tips
- We Western men are too direct according to Brazilian women. Even if your Brazilian date has made it clear all evening that she’s got more in mind than just kissing, you can’t just say: “My place or yours?” at the end of the evening. You need to make a more romantic proposal.
- Don’t be a couch potato, but often take your Brazilian girlfriend out to dinner, a walk, or a movie.
- Buy her a present every now and then.
- Send your girlfriend a sweet message every day.
15. You aren’t afraid of intimacy
Western men are often called prudes. This is in contrast to Brazilian guys, who are known as passionate.
For example, Western men often find it uncomfortable to kiss in public. And I’m not talking about a kiss on the cheek or mouth.
To Brazilian girls, there’s nothing weird about snogging in public. In Brazil, you will see couples passionately kiss in the street, in clubs, bars, or even restaurants.
One time, I was eating with my girlfriend in Sancho, a respectable restaurant in São Paulo, when she moved to kiss me. I pulled back and told her I was a little embarrassed to kiss in a nice restaurant like this. She shook her head and asked me to look around. I did so and to my surprise, I saw no less than four couples engaged in passionate French kissing. One couple was going at it as their lives depended on it, right there in the middle of the restaurant. They were waiting for a table and apparently that was taking too long for them. “Get a room,” I joked, but she pointed out that that was my Western prudishness talking.
If you think this has something to do with the Latin temperament, you’re mistaken. This is typically Brazilian. During my trip through Colombia, I noticed that I didn’t see kissing couples anywhere. When I asked the Colombians about this, they told me it wasn’t considered civilized to kiss in public. Intimacy took place in the bedroom.
Additionally, Western men often show too little affection for their partners in the presence of their friends and family. If you do this with a Brazilian woman, she will doubt the sincerity of your feelings for her.
Tips
- Tell her you’re crazy about her as often as possible. Brazilian women really need that.
- Hold her hand as often as possible.
16. You’re athletic
Brazilian guys excel at sports such as soccer, beach volleyball, and surfing. Sports that will get you women’s respect, particularly in the coastal cities such as Rio and Florianopolis.
As a result, Brazilian guys will often upload an image of themselves with a surfboard to dating sites such as Tinder, Bumble, or Inner Circle, because they know that girls pay attention to such things.
In cities such as Belo Horizonte or São Paulo, girls are a lot less interested in a man’s surfing abilities.
However, all women like a guy who’s in shape. They don’t care how he stays that way.
Tips
- Make sure you always look fit if you’re planning on going to the coast. A six pack is not necessary, but a beer gut is the polar opposite, doomed to fail.
- In most Brazilian gyms, you can exercise for a whole day for only five dollars.
17. You are energetic
Brazilian women greatly appreciate the liveliness of Brazilian guys. They are athletic, love to dance, and above all, they’re entertainers.
I dated a Brazilian model who was much younger than I was for about three years. In those years, we visited each other regularly when I was on holiday in Brazil or when she had to travel to Europe for work. She called me her ficante. This word is derived from the verb ficar (to stay) and means that we were only a couple when I was with her. I was fine with that.
Vivi was always full of energy and that was infectious. I was also bursting with energy when I was with her and felt ten years younger. One of the things about me which she greatly appreciated was that I wanted to do fun things with her every day. We explored the city, went out to dinner, and danced until the early morning in the hippest clubs of São Paulo, London, and Barcelona. We didn’t sleep much when we were together and we were often completely exhausted when saying goodbye at the airport.
It’s important that you’re aware of this and adapt your behavior if necessary.
It’s okay if you’re a little calmer than the average Brazilian man. After all, you also need to be yourself. But if you are naturally a little sluggish or shy, you will need to work on that.
When you spend time with a Brazilian woman, she expects you to be enthusiastic, positive, and proactive when the situation calls for it.
Women in Brazil are also used to receiving attention from men all day long. More so than Western women.
Brazilian men flirt, whistle, make jokes and chat; they will do anything they can to be liked by a girl. As a Western man, you need to adopt the same behavior to some degree.
Personally, I would leave out the whistling.
I’ve been told:
“Secretly, all Brazilian women are a little addicted to attention.”
Tips
- When talking to a Brazilian woman, don’t forget that she has probably already been approached about thirty times that day. In short, if you do so, do so with conviction and energy.
- Should you be attracted to women over ten years younger than you are, behave energetically enough to compensate for the age difference.
18. You come across as self-assured
Brazilian guys have a self-assured attitude. A Brazilian woman is used to this and expects the same of Western men.
Take the following into account:
We Western men are sometimes too passive in responding to undesired behavior of an outsider. In such situations, Brazilian guys like to show who’s boss and aren’t afraid of confrontations.
A Brazilian woman likes such an attitude.
Subsequently, the woman asks ‘her’ guy to keep calm. Typical Brazilian roleplay.
Additionally, we are also known for complaining and whining. When we’re ill, for instance. That is certainly not appreciated by Brazilian women.
Tips
- Show your tough side a little more and stop whining about everything.
- The same is true for emotions. Try to restrain these as much as possible. It’s seen as weakness if a man is unable to do so.
19. You’re funny
To a Brazilian woman, humor is incredibly important. Perhaps even more so than to other women. They love to be entertained and jokes are part of the deal.
Brazilian men are masters at this.
In the West, you use three types of humor to entertain a woman:
- By making jokes about her; playfully teasing her means you like her. For some Western women, this is even the only way of retaining their attention.
- By making jokes about yourself; self-mockery.
- By telling funny stories about yourself or someone else.
In Brazil, things are a little different.
Brazilian women certainly don’t like it when you, as a foreigner, make jokes about them. In particular, jokes about her looks are viewed as a capital offense.
No matter how clever your joke about her looks may be, she will consider it an insult and you will inevitably drive her away.
However, has she made a joke about her own looks? Feel free to laugh. She will usually do this to see whether you will pay her a compliment. In short, to check whether you like her.
Tip
Brazilian women often complain about Brazilian men. When they do this, add to it by making some jokes. This will immediately put you as a Western man in a good light.
20. You can dance a little
Are you not a great dancer? This is the time to take lessons. Popular Brazilian dancing styles are samba, forro and sertaneja.
Why is it so important to be a good dancer?
It’s the simplest way of coming into informal contact with Brazilian women.
In samba clubs, women stand by themselves or in a group waiting to be asked to dance. An invitation to dance is seldom refused. Only men who are visibly drunk or look aggressive are rejected.
This fact is gratefully used by Brazilian men. You will therefore often see the most beautiful women dance with the ugliest men, men who wouldn’t even get a second of their attention under different circumstances.
Are you getting a drink for a girl you’ve been talking with for a while, and it’s taking too long because of a long queue or slow bartender? Don’t be surprised if she’s dancing with another guy by the time you return.
This may seem rude, but it’s the Brazilian way.
This also doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve lost her, but simply that she felt like dancing.
Dancing, that’s what it’s all about. A man with dancing skills is a suitable partner in the eyes of Brazilian women. According to them, he’s:
- Sensitive
- Romantic
- Good in bed
Finally, it’s good to realize that dancing is the fastest way of getting to kiss a girl.
I’ve been told:
“If I know his name, age, and profession and he’s a good dancer and conversationalist, I’ll kiss him.”
This could all occur within five minutes. After the kissing, contact info is exchanged and the hunt for the next one begins.
Tips
- Take dancing lessons in your own country or upon arrival in Brazil.
- Western men are often told their dancing looks a little too feminine. While dancing, keep your back straight and your hands relaxed next to the body.
- Observe how Brazilian men dance and learn from them.
20. You are musical
If samba clubs are playing good live music, it sometimes seems as if you’re witness to a deeply religious gathering. It’s like they’re in a trance, that’s how intensely classics such as Trem das onze and Canto das tres raças are sung along to by those present. To Brazilians, music is more than just entertainment, it’s an outlet and a spiritual experience.
Brazilian women love music, particularly Brazilian music. Whether they’ve got a good or bad voice, they love to sing along. If your girlfriend has a bad voice, there’s nothing for it but to just accept this.
Just plug your ears.
Tips
- Would you like to impress Brazilian women? Familiarize yourself with a few Brazilian classics. To make it easy for you, I’ve listed the most important ones.
- Do you play an instrument? Learn to play some Brazilian songs.
In summary
It should no longer be a secret to you what Brazilian women look for in a man. Brazilian men will have most, if not all, of the 11 characteristics described above.
I have given you sufficient tips to help eliminate this head-start. It’s up to you to decide how much energy you want to spend on this.
Most tips only require a behavioral change and it’s simply a matter of teaching yourself a few new habits. According to the Huffington Post everyone is capable of doing so, so why not you?
