How do you pick up a Brazilian girl? I give you 10 powerful tips and some important things to avoid.
1. Make eye contact
2. Don’t come across as too shy
3. Learn how to dance
4. Keep the first conversation light and positive
5. Touch her
6. Drinks? Not necessary
7. Let the conversation fall silent
8. Kissing
9. Lovemaking
10. Phone number
1. Make eye contact
Making eye contact is a way of checking whether a woman is interested in you or not. When you do this in the West and the lady in question looks back, this could mean she’s interested.
But she might also be thinking:
“Why is that creep staring at me the whole time?!”
Or she’s not looking back. That might seem like a rejection, but perhaps she’s thinking:
“It’s great that that hunk is looking at me, but I hope he doesn’t notice the pimple on my chin…”
In short, in the west, you never know what you’re in for. Sound familiar? Way too exhausting.
If you want to know whether a girl is interested, you’ll have to talk to her. That takes courage, time and comes with the risk of striking out.
No, things are different in Brazil. A paradise for men who hate to strike out. And what man doesn’t?
In Brazil, there are two options:
– She ignores you, meaning that she’s not interested. Clear.
– She looks back, in which case the five-second rule applies: if she looks back for at least five seconds, that means she’s interested.
It doesn’t get any simpler than that, does it?
It’s written on your face
Cara de pau literally means wooden face, but pau is also used to talk about the male member.
I asked Marcela, a 24-year-old friend from São Paolo, why it was that when we went out, so many men came up to her whom she really wanted to kiss. Could they smell it? She told me that many Brazilians, including herself, have a cara de pau: you can read on their face whether they’re interested.
In short, Brazilian women give you enough hints. This makes the pick-up game a lot easier than it is over here, because you can choose to only approach women with whom you have a chance.
2. Don’t come across as too shy
The most important piece of advice I can give you is that you shouldn’t come across as too shy when you approach a Brazilian woman. Being slightly nervous is okay (which I always am), but don’t let it become more than healthy tension.
If necessary, act like you’re self-assured.
If you maintain eye contact with a Brazilian girl for five seconds or more, don’t hesitate, and walk up to her to chat.
If you put it off for the entire evening, because you’re working up the nerve to do it, you can forget about it. After all, she knows perfectly well why you’ve made her wait.
Brazilian women don’t like insecure men.
Show that you’re not afraid to talk to a girl in front of others. Even if she’s with a large group of girlfriends or, in the worst scenario, some other guys.
Didn’t she just look at you intently for five seconds? What does she have to do? Shout at you to invite you to walk over? So go for it!
Brazilian men don’t take pauses when playing the pick-up game. This goes beyond a single, sultry look. They are true hunters. We’re talking about whistling, calling after them, and sometimes even touching. If the girl responds positively, they will try to kiss her as soon as possible or get her phone number.
If you want to pick up a Brazilian woman, you will have to join in with this macho behavior. Women expect you to.
In São Paulo, I once made eye contact with a good-looking Brazilian girl at a gym. After we had given each other about five sultry looks, it was clear to me: she was interested.
The sports club was going to close within ten minutes, so I decided to wait for her outside and ask her out. So, we walked out together when the gym closed and I started to talk to her. I totally didn’t expect what happened next: she completely ignored me, got into her car, and drove away. I didn’t get it at all.
That night I asked my Brazilian friends what I’d done wrong. They laughed at my story. What was my mistake? I should have talked to her in the safe environment of the gym, where she would probably have given me her phone number. By then, it had taken too long and I hadn’t shown her that I wasn’t afraid to talk to her in front of the other people in the gym.
And she was right. Next time, just take a deep breath and walk up to such a girl. It’s the only chance you’re going to get.
3. Learn how to dance
Are you having trouble striking up a conversation with a woman? Then samba clubs are the ideal solution for you. Instead of walking up to a girl to talk to her, you simply ask her to dance.
Even the most rigid and clumsy guy can dance a few basic steps after some lessons, so at least you won’t stand out too much.
While dancing, you can easily start a conversation. If the conversation doesn’t immediately go smoothly, you can just dance without having to worry about an awkward silence.
Don’t panic if your samba is not yet up to snuff. Most Brazilian women will love to teach a gringo the samba. Look at that: your first conversation topic! Easy does it.
4. Keep the first conversation light and positive
Don’t make it too complicated or too artificial. Chances are you will be talking about yourself within a minute. Brazilians are always very interested in foreigners.
Start as follows, for instance:
– What a great place. It’s my first time. Do they always play live music?
– My Portuguese isn’t so good, but can I ask you a question?
– I just arrived in Brazil and I’m looking for a cheap prepaid SIM card. Do you have any tips for me?
– Are you from this neighborhood? I was wondering if it’s safe to walk home later.
Keep such a first conversation light and positive. All women like to be entertained, so make as many jokes as possible. And I can’t stress this enough: never make jokes about her looks.
Brazilian women for beginners (2021) – Amazon
Make jokes about:
– Having wooden legs, but that you’d like to learn to dance the samba.
– That you don’t understand how Brazilian men can fail to appreciate Brazilian women, and how great that is for the rest of the world.
– That you’re glad to be in a country where Capri pants are no longer in fashion for women.
– That your vocabulary consists of caralho (dig) and porra (shit) thanks to movies such as Cidade de Deus (City of God) (2002).
5. Touch her
Brazilians are much more physical than westerners. Touch her a few times during the conversation. Does she allow it? That’s a sign she’s still interested.
6. Drinks? Not necessary
Contrary to the West, it’s not usual to get a drink for a girl in Brazil. What you do often see is that you can buy big bottles of beer and use these to refill the girl’s glass. Don’t expect her to do anything in return or that you can claim her because of this.
But that’s no different in the West.
7. Let the conversation fall silent
First, we had the five-second rule, now it’s the five-minute rule: if a girl will stay and talk to you for five minutes, she likes you. If not, she would have come up with some excuse to walk away. Just to be sure, let the conversation fall silent and wait for her to continue. If she does, you’re solid.
What now?
8. Kissing
Yes, it almost continuously happens in Brazilian nightlife that a girl is kissed by a guy after a five-minute conversation. The point is that kissing is relatively meaningless to Brazilian women.
They often kiss just for fun. Or actually, because it’s simply part of the deal. And they know exactly why you’re talking to them.
In Brazil, a guy only talks to a girl with the goal of picking her up. In Brazil, guys and girls don’t talk to become friends.
In samba clubs, you will constantly see the following scene:
- Guy looks at girl.
- When a girl looks back for five seconds, the guy immediately walks over to her.
- Guy starts chatting or asks her to dance.
- Guy and girl exchange names, age, profession and a few smiles.
- After five minutes, guy and girl kiss.
- Guy and girl chat for a bit, exchange phone numbers and say goodbye.
Particularly this last point is interesting. You will often see that guys subsequently hit on another girl. That’s perfectly normal in Brazil. You can stay with one particular girl the entire night, but that’s not a must.
9. Lovemaking
In the west, you often have to try harder and wait longer before being able to kiss a girl. And if you’ve made it that far, there’s a good chance you get to go home with her at the end of the evening. And if you’re lucky, you end up in bed together.
You can forget about that in Brazil.
Despite kissing being less meaningful there, lovemaking is considered to be very meaningful. When you’ve kissed a girl, this is not an invitation for lovemaking, particularly in the case of traditional Brazilian women. At most, she will give you her phone number or she’ll friend you on Facebook. In both cases, you can invite her on a date later.
10. Phone number
Are you uncomfortable kissing a girl so quickly or in public? Ask her for her contact information. If she gives you her phone number, she’s interested and would certainly like to date you. Does she friend you on Facebook? There’s still some work to be done.
